There is a soft mist around your outline when you come into a place, and it does not take anything from you, it blurs the hard line so the air gets in. Neptune and the Sun share the same degree in your chart, so the dreaming and the being-you are one figure: your self has no sharp border, it has a half-drawn shape the people around you finish in their own heads. That is why two of them will describe you as two different people. Each kept the version of you they happened to need. What time teaches you is to hold one core you can recognize yourself by from the inside. Others reading you as porous is a gift. Losing your own outline is a separate problem entirely.