Mid-argument, you hold the door anyway, because neither of you actually wants the other walking out into the rain. You were born with Mars in your seventh house, the house of the partner across the table and the bargain that takes two voices to strike, so you bring fire into the place most people bring caution. The ones who hold your attention are the ones who push back, who do not fold when you lean in. Easy company used to read as dull to you, and it took a while to learn that some kinds of quiet are oxygen and not absence. The skill worth learning is picking the fights that earn the friction and letting the rest go. Choose someone who can meet you blow for blow without burning the house down. A bond with no conflict in it is a museum case, polished and untouched. A bond that is only conflict is a front line. There is a third thing, harder and better: hard conversations held inside real safety, year over year, until the trust is older than the heat.