Venus squares the axis from the South Node side, the worn groove you court pleasure from, so the inherited longing grinds crosswise against the turn, and the strain keeps returning as a step you soften rather than take. You reach for the comfortable bond by reflex, gathering what soothes instead of moving the actual new direction. That is not a defect. The chafe is shaping a deeper sense of worth in you. Familiar warmth was never going to carry this turn. The advance steadies the day you stop sinking into the affections you have outgrown and value what stretches you.